Today i am feeling much better. Having had somewhat of a heart to heart with my husband (and lots of sex) i feel like i am on the brink of change yet again. Anyone who has followed my crazy life antics on my blog will know i am obsessed with change. I get bored easily, i think i want something one minute and realise i have managed to wade into deep water with my crazy idea within a matter of days. I have spent my adult life starting diets that fail, having children and trying desperately to find a job/profession that i actually love doing, this has resulted in massive changes every 6 months. I just love the thrill of something new, the excitement of a new house or venture, the planning is always an elaborate explosion of project management and the failure is when i get bored and turn to the next big thing.
One thing for sure is that i have managed to waiver between two things all my life. The Arts and Medicine. When i was studying for my GCSE’s way back in the mid 90’s i discovered Drama. I loved it. I threw myself into it, it was my talent. I remember after my GCSE exam my teacher approached me and said “Hayley, Its a good job i know the real you because when your in character i could slap you!” I was playing a rather wicked bitch of an ex girlfriend in a court case at the time. However my A* in Drama was never put to use because i ended up going to work in a dentist as an aprentice Dental Nurse. I was planning on doing that then bouncing up to be a midwife or a nurse, what happened was i was basically a victim of a married man who though he could have his way with a 17 year old. I escaped that job before i was made into some slut and went to college to study Art. That’s when i fell pregnant with my first son at 17 and my boyfriend of 3 years couldn’t be seen for dust.
I left college shortly after Nat was born to work in an office trying to support him, that never really worked either. The rest as they say is history, but eventually i ended up back in college in my late 20’s and going to university after Noah was born when i was 29. I completed my degree in adult nursing in 2012 after many many tearful days of wanting to give up. I have been a nurse now for 19 months, i have a love/hate relationship with my profession. If i won the lottery i would be out of the job like a shot, its not that i don’t care about people, its just that the bureaucracy and disrespect of the profession makes me disillusioned. I have found myself sitting at the traffic lights looking up at offices that are holding small teams, wearing trendy clothes, with nice hair and nails and fruity accessories, laughing and enjoying their jobs, the pang of jealousy eats through me.
I don’t even need an office i just need to be me, to stop hiding in a uniform, celebrate who i really am on a daily basis, be a face in the crowd that stands out. To find my inner queen, write without inhibitions, earn enough to survive but gain so much more in life experience. To visit places of intrigue and beauty, to listen to women’s hour without being disturbed, to pick my boys up from school and start an evening adventure. I would love to watch Shakespeare and listen to real music being played at festivals. To drink fruit cider in the evening sun without worrying i am at work the next day. I don’t want to buy designer shoes i want to watch the people who buy them experience them and then write all about it. I want to observe women, mothers, families children and express real life in a thousand words. I want to recycle and up cycle, and enjoy all the simple things in life. I want to find a way of destroying the commercialism of Christmas and teach people its ok to bring back the traditional family values and ditch the need to over spend to impress.
So for now i have to keep going to work but slowly i am going to switch and leave behind the nurse to discover the writer.